It’s raining again. Lena is sleeping in the next room; Elliott’s at a reception on base. I’m sitting cross-legged in bed, a cup of coffee on the windowsill and my journal open beside me.
There’s also a book with me: Simplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne. I read a review of this book a few months ago on a friend of a friend’s wonderful blog and immediately ordered it for myself on Amazon. I think it’s my favorite secular book so far on parenting… and from the mom of a 6-month-old that’s a killer recommendation! Hah.
[S]implification is not just about taking things away. It is about making room, creating space in your life, your intentions, and your heart. (p.34)
- Filtering out the adult world
- developmentally inappropriate
- conceptually “fixed” (ie. products based on TV shows or movies)
- easily breakable
- very high-stimulation
- annoying or offensive
- claims to give your child a developmental edge
- something you were pressured to buy
- inspires corrosive play
- a multiple
- uncluttered and restful to the senses
- with soft light and colors and a sense of order and space
- with room to move and play, draw and build
- without toys that are broken, forgotten, heaped in piles
- with a few of her most beloved toys in sight and the rest in one or two baskets on the floor, covered with a cloth.
- watching your child create new worlds and new ways to play with her toys, instead of requiring new toys to play with
- opening your child’s bureau or closet and seeing space around a few clothes that fit her and the current season
- your child’s own real tools and their happy sense of purpose as she works and plays at cooking, cleaning, and gardening
- your child being able to live deeply and repeatedly in the “now” of a story and her play, rather than always eying what’s next