On July 7th, I woke up to find a little white box addressed to me by the kitchen sink. This beautiful necklace was inside: three rings on a gold chain. The gift was from my three sisters-in-law (Eden, Jess, and Erika) and it was given on the occasion of the first anniversary of my sister Julia’s death.
I haven’t said anything about this anniversary or the painful ache of missing Julia on here, even though these things were very much on my mind recently. I wish I had some brilliant and articulate post to write about grief and missing Julia, but I don’t. I just miss her. Maybe wise words will come eventually… but for now, I feel empty and sad. I often go back to my dad’s words about thankfulness in the midst of grief.
This necklace means so much coming from my three Garber sisters, and the rings symbolize a great deal to me as I think of my sister Emily, my sister Julia, and myself. Each of us is so different, each of us is so much the same. I also love that there are three rings because rings symbolize continuity, wholeness, and eternity. Although Julia is separated from her body now — as Emily and I will be sooner or later — one day our bodies and souls will be united, perfect, and whole in the new heavens and the new earth.
I don’t wear much jewelry — usually just my wedding rings and a ring that Julia’s friends made with Romans 8:18 inscribed inside it. Now I have this beautiful necklace too. Do you wear special jewelry that was given to you by or reminds you of a loved one?